BAH!
So, for anyone reading who doesn't actually already know this, I do not get along with my parents. We have a very rocky relationship. I don't really have much of a relationship with my dad, and my mom was an unfortunate bystander in that situation. Now that I am PG and she is going to be a grandma (for the first time), she is trying to "be my mom", if you know what I mean.
Well, she's driving me nuts! I am trying to be nice and let her have her grandma fun, but really? Is it necessary to IM my husband and ask him to have me call her (uh...does your phone not dial?), to talk about nothing. Or to discuss the nursery closet and the 4,327 ways that I could organize it. I know you have your ideas, but you also know that I am going to do it how I want, no matter what you say. Please stop calling me to find out when we can go yarn shopping because you want to make the baby a blanket. That's nice of you, but I already told you I want navy with white trim. Navy is not really something that you can get wrong. It's navy.
And is it necessary for you to send me an email EVERY time I update my registry? I feel like I hit the 'save' button and my email is blinking with "Lynette- do you really think you need that? I asked around and so-and-so said they never used it. You won't either. I think you should take it off." or "Why don't you have this on your registry? You need this... add this, but only if you take this off..." Really, lady, it's a registry. It's not the finalized version of everything that my child will ever have.
Ok, here comes the really snotty part. My mom is planning one of my showers, which I think is super generous of her. But, I do have a couple ideas or things that I would really like to avoid, which she is totally blowing off. And she does have some wonderful ideas and things, but I would almost rather not know them all. Keep a few cats in the bag. I feel like this "reconnecting" she's attempting is going to have bad consequences. I feel like I am going to feel smothered again and pull back, which is partly what led to us having a bad relationship to begin with.
I think I need to just take a step back, take a deep breath, and hold my ground. Or go insane.
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uh oh peaches, i feel like we both need to have an "I'm going insane do to outside forces" call soon
Hang in there. She thinks she's helping... If it gets really bad, sit her down and tell her how you feel. Those last couple of sentences about pulling away again, that should scare her into chilling out a bit.
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