Am I speaking a language you do not understand?

Ugh...as I write this, I have moved out of my bedroom. I am holed up in the basement bedroom which is like going from a 5 star hotel to the Lazy T Motel down the road. H had softball tonight, and then went out with the guys for food and drinks. I picked him up later and on the way home, asked how much he drank. He said 5 1/4 beers. AH! I do not get it. Am I not speaking in English? Really though. So I got upset with him, which made him get upset with me. And any time that he's upset with me, he has to go throw some comment in about how I should get a new job. He knows that the job situtation is a sensitive topic, and he purposefully says mean-spirited things to me about it. So, while he was in the shower, I brushed my teeth, got some supplies, and headed downstairs. He came down about 20 minutes later and asked me what I was doing. He always does that; says something incredibly mean and then later acts like it didn't happen. I said I was getting ready for bed. He asked if I was sleeping down here, and I said yes. He asked why and I said because I didn't want to sleep with him. He got all mad and told me I was being ridiculous because he went out and had 5 beers. He really doesn't get it. I am not mad at you for going out and having a few. But a few is 3, not 5. Why does he have to drink 5 on a Monday anyways? If it was Friday or Saturday, I would be a little more forgiving. I am mad because he does not care enough about TTC to change his habits. He thinks that he has changed his habits and he's trying, but he's not. He did a good job on Saturday, but only because we argued all day about it. I just want him to care about this. I want him to want it as much as I want it. I just feel like he is disregarding everything that I'm saying to him...and that really concerns me for our future. If something is important to me, it should be important to him. He sees how much pain and disappointment I go through every month that goes by that I'm not PG. He sees my little smile when I'm in the 2ww and he asks me, and I say there's a possibility. I would just think that he would want to do what he can to make me happy. After I get PG, if he wants to go drink himself stupid all the time, fine-we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. I really don't want to sleep down here tonight, but I have not made my decision yet.